If You Love Them Enough

George Washington Carver

Today on my calendar there was this quote by George Washington Carver, “Anything will give up its secrets if you love it enough. Not only have I found that when I talk to the little flower or to the little peanut, they will give up their secrets, but I have found that when I silently commune with people, they give up their secrets also–if you love them enough.”

Being a nurse in a woman’s health/maternity unit at a hospital, I was taking care of a woman who had a hysterectomy this month. She was crying out so loudly for pain medication that some of the mothers were fearful she was crazy mad and that she may come and hurt their babies. I could not give her anything more for pain, but I decided to sit with her to see if I could calm her. Entering her room I asked her what I could do to make her more comfortable besides giving her something for pain since we had a little time to wait for that yet. Together we got her in another position. I gave her a cool washcloth for her sweated brow and turned some music on low. All the while I was talking to her and getting her story. She had a history of bipolar disorder and she said no one in the hospital had treated her with respect. She said, “You know, I am a person, too.” She wanted to call her pastor who was keeping her children, but the phone at her bedside would not make long-distance calls. She said she was really worried about how her children were doing. I got my cell phone and dialed her pastor’s number for her. She had about a 5-minute talk with her pastor and her children. She began talking and joking. By the time she clicked my cell phone shut she was laughing. At the appropriate time, I gave her pain medication. She hugged me and told me she would never forget me. I spent a little time and she told me her “secret”. She was hurting, but it wasn’t only the surgical site that hurt her. It was also how she was treated and how worried she was about her children.

As I am about to review Colossians 1:1-4 in my effort to memorize the book of Colossians this year, I am beginning to find that as I spend time with the Bible, I am becoming privy to its secrets. I had memorized the verse from Jeremiah 33:3 a long time ago, “Call to Me and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, you do not know.” I must not have taken it to heart because I did not call out and I did not learn His secrets. Was it because I did not love Him enough? I remember when I fell in love with my husband. I wanted to be with him all the time, talk with him so I could really get to know him. I also love my work. I remember dedicating myself to decades of study to get my PhD in Nursing because I loved my profession and wanted to know its secrets. I have always felt I loved my Savior and His Word, but I wonder why I spent so little time in the Word and know so little about being a Christian. Really, could it be, I did not love them enough?

In the midst of change,


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2 comments on “If You Love Them Enough

  1. Wow, this is really good. Having just come off of working 2 12 hours shifts in women’s health, it’s encouraging to hear this. Everyone needs to be treated with respect and dignity (something my nursing education instilled deeply in me 🙂 ). Thank you for this good good reminder. Time and love are irreplaceable.

  2. Yes, Andrea, time and love are irreplaceable. The former is slowly being whittled away by the scratchings on spreadsheets that dictate a high nurse:patient ratio. In that environment I am called to love. THAT is the calling of a nurse. May we find our way in Him.

    Blessings on you and those little ones,

    PS Today’s the day I request “Like a River” at the hymn sing.

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