Ann asked the community of Walk with Him Wednesdays to write about a habit they wish to develop in the new year. A habit by definition is “A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition.” (Online Dictionary) So Ann wants us to consciously, intentionally name something that we will repeat so frequently that it will become a recurrent pattern, perhaps even an unconscious pattern by the end of 2012. What a novel strategy for making a resolution that will last! The time period of a year is my own addition. Ann didn’t say that, but if I keep with my own interpretation of a habit as the re-framing of a New Year’s resolution, I will use the year as my transformation period.
I’d like to develop the habit of placing relationships first in my life and tasks, time and trivia second. This is not natural for me. I am time- and task-oriented. I say I show my love by doing, but that is an excuse. I “do” because I like to do. Relating tires me. I need to learn to relate joyfully so that it becomes an unconscious pattern not a chore I feel forced to face kicking and screaming.
Some of you reading this may be nodding and saying, “Yes, I can relate to this.” (N0 pun intended.) I bet, however, the vast majority are saying, “I don’t get you at all, Dawn. I love to talk, entertain, chat on the phone and party.” I know because I am surrounded by people persons all the time and I wonder why the people gene didn’t get passed on to me. My sisters both love to be in crowds. My one sister is a bartender and my other is a receptionist. You can’t deal with people much more in a day than they do. Those of you who know me are probably thinking, “You are a nurse. You are in a people profession, too.” Yes, I am, but I work mostly newborn nursery and intensive care nursery and I really don’t have to make conversation. I love it. Most of the nurses I work with hate to be assigned to the nursery because no one ever checks on them and they go “crazy” in there with no one to talk to. I NEVER have a low moment in the nursery. I love the peace and quiet when we are slow. I get to hum to the wee ones, walk a fussy one in a sling around my shoulder while caring for others and pray over each one. When we are in an emergency situation stabilizing a sick one, I know what to do and I like that, too.
So there you have it…I am a true phlegmatic if you know Tim Lahaye’s spirit-controlled temperament theory. Tim says, “The Spirit-filled Phlegmatic will become less stubborn, fearful, and indifferent, while becoming more open, self-controlled, and much more motivated, to make a great, personable leader for Christ.” My quest is for the Holy Spirit to so fill me with His power that I lose my fear and indifference so that I can be open, self-controlled and motivated to become a more people-oriented disciple for Christ.
The details of how I plan to effect this change will be the subject of next week’s Walk with Him Wednesdays’ post. Please come back and if you have any suggestions to help me with my plan of attack, comment here!